Are you addicted to “love”?
Love addicts are the ones that look forward to life. They are more energized than other people. And in contrast with other addictions, those addicted to ‘’love’’ do not have to consume any substance to experience its effects! Once under influence of ‘’love’’, one has the utmost reason to live!
There are wide varieties of love addictions however let us define the “love addict” first?
“A love addict is a person that feels immense joy in the presence of another specific person. He elevates this other person on a pedestal and is wholeheartedly ready for all sacrifices to please him/her. He/she might even accept to be mistreated from the other person and would unconditionally pardon any unacceptable behavior.”
What are the types of attraction?
Physical attraction falls into two categories:
Some persons are born with a natural beauty and there is no clear answer/description to “What beauty is.” You just know it only when you see it! As it is so said: “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder” It is not bound to any dimension or form: Having larger eyes does not conclusively make a person prettier!
Charm is harder to define. Some persons are more attractive than others. It can be attributed to their look more than the color or shape of their eyes, it can be for their smile more than the shape or color of their lips, it can be their voice infliction, the way they think, behave, talk, react…!
Some people attract others by their sex appeal: It may be the way they walk, talk, move, wink, touch, sing, dance…
Gentleness and respect
Many are attracted by the behavior of another person, their gentleness, the way they treat others, the way they approach people and issues…
Harshness and disrespect
Some can be addicted to being mistreated and/or disrespected by their loved one. In such case they feed from their counterpart behaviors.
Exchange of services or benefits
Some persons are ready to accept tradeoffs: Against fame, glamour, wealth or cash they would accept and endure either a brief temporary arrangement or a permanent agreement extending a lifetime.
Family ties may sometime seal a deal. In some other instances they may deter some individuals from walking away from an actual arrangement.
Same religious or political beliefs
Some believe that they can find happiness if they find their counterpart in a community that portrays the some religious or political beliefs.
Race or origins
Many hate to look for a match coming from a different race of their own or having a different origins! But a minority could be aroused by that contrast.
Friendship is an important factor in life. If a couple is able to develop an authentic friendship within their couple, they can lead an ultimately successful union.
Some persons with above normal skills, may dramatically influence their entourage. Intelligence, charisma, special gifts or abilities can easily get others to fall for them.
The oldest human equation of all times is that every woman is on a quest for a man that would protect her.
Fulfilling sexual needs
Fulfillment of sexual needs is a natural urge. However satisfaction is rarely bilateral. For thousands of years women suffered from lack of pleasure. This fact is the result to both men and women being ignorant of the female body. But if the joy is mutual, sex brings an equilibrium that helps keep relationships alive and well.
- Any one of the above mentioned reasons is not solid enough to keep a relationship healthy and alive for an extended period of time. The more contributing factors, the more addicted a person would be to another.
- Unilateral attraction will not build a relationship. It should be mutual.
- Being in love and being loved are different. While being in love gives the person a reason to live, being loved provides the individual with personal satisfaction.